Of course, your partner is allowed to do whatever he or she wants and you are not allowed to question them, but they will control everything you do. You can’t control what happened to them, and you can’t solve it for them.
One day, he is caring and loving and wonderful, and the next he is hateful and raging and mean. You are afraid to talk, or when you do talk you feel like you are never heard, your words are taken out of context, misunderstood, or blatantly ignored. In the beginning of a relationship they might seem like everything you ever wanted….usually this is because they are trying to act like everything you ever wanted. You have no support group and therefore your partner gains more power. He or she might be mean to people they think are “below them” or people who are defenseless, like babies or children.
They might call you fat in front of your friends, or make fun of your clothes. You don’t understand what went wrong, or why your partner acts the way they do or what you can do to make things better.
They might lose their temper in the middle of a restaurant because they think you are flirting with the waiter. You’re not always sure what the problem is, but things never add up. If you follow what they say, things still don’t get better.
Now, a guy might talk about how another woman is hot randomly, and sometimes that can be innocent. Guys and their texting habits can be tricky, and you can’t use that to assess his level of interest. They get all wound up because some guy totally swept them off their feet. The problem is this particular guy flirts with every woman. In fact, I used to have a habit of calling women pet names like sweetheart, “hun,” and stuff like that.
However, if you notice that he not only talks about other women, but talks about liking a woman on more than just a physical level, or wanting to date her, then that’s a very clear sign he’s not interested in you. If he has ample opportunity to talk to you and never acts on it, that’s a sign he’s not interested. Negative body language cues include: avoiding eye contact, positioning his body away from you, not engaging in the conversation (non-verbal signs of this are him not smiling while talking to you, or not nodding and showing active interest in what you’re saying), maintaining distance from you, looking around the room while talking to you… He got her number, they had a charming conversation, she texts him and… I thought it was affectionate and nice, but I meant it in a platonic way. MORE: 11 Enormous Signs He’s Not Serious About You 9.