It is so funny to see how some social behaviors are exactly the same between France and the US, and others are completely different. Well, this was a big shock to me when I arrived in the US. I understood of course a man and a woman could be interested in each other in a romantic way, let me reassure you.
One of the very obvious difference is the dating game. But I was not aware that accepting to go out to dinner with a man alone gave the signal that I was possibly romantically interested in him.
I guess it’s much more accepted in France for men and women to be friends.
However, if a woman is dining with a man, you can bet he will pick up the check. I usually trick them by asking to be excused (as if I was going to the lady’s room, grab the waiter and give him my credit card).
She decides whether she wants the guy or not, and may need more than one dinner to make up her mind… In any case, there is no obligation nor expectation whatsoever for the woman to do whatever after any number of “rendez-vous galants”.“You can go out with three, four or even more people.” “Dating” is defended by Laure Danglade, a French writer with a novel on the subject. […] Americans don’t want to close any doors until they’re really sure that they’re attached to someone.” The French pickup artist site French Touch Seduction also gives the behavior a thumbs up, saying it avoids the “hypocritical pretense of being exclusive from the moment of the first kiss”.But Americans keeping their options open is exactly what bothers the male blogger Zeggari, as well as the female blogger Anne: “Americans always have a plan B or C waiting, and we’re just one of the many life preservers floating there.” You do not generally say “I love you,” according to Rue89, before six months of relationship, or you risk losing all of your power. “American women are obsessed with their dream of a perfect wedding, and men know it,” says Terrafemina, and others …The game is the main point, it’s relatively innocent and usually no-one gets hurt, just a little blushed :-) With kissing hi and goodbye being the standard and French women being more “flirtatious”, it can be difficult for foreigners to correctly read a French woman’s body language.I guess since there is no set protocol, French women are pretty obvious, and often more direct than other women. It’s unlikely they’ll refuse to take it further, but not unheard of.