I ultimately realized I was putting WAY too much stock in a relationship that was never going to work, but that was ok.
I now take each interaction - whether it's a conversation in a bar, a date or a booty call - as a learning experience, and have taken pages upon pages of mental notes of what I need (and what I don't) in a romantic partner. - It's okay to laugh at yourself: It probably took me a bit longer to learn this than most, but LIFE ISN'T THAT SERIOUS.
As a single female in a big city, I naturally continued my Tinder/Hinge/Bumble exploration in search of my next PIC, and ended up meeting with a young entrepreneur at our local neighborhood tavern. I had taken part in a relatively successful date night, AND made my LTBC (long term booty call - we're going to make it happen) fully aware that I was, in fact, attractive to other men, and that I wasn't simply his sex slave. While I admittedly don't have a ton of long term relationship experience at the ripe old age of 23, I do know what I have experienced in a committed relationship that I will ALWAYS be looking for in a potential mate (and that BB did not provide...): - Intellectual compatibility: Have you ever met that person that you can talk with for hours upon hours on end, and feel like no time has gone by? After our initial meeting, we struggled to find mutual ground on topics that interested us.
- It's not okay for your partner to make you feel "less than": While BB and I, clearly, were nothing more than booty calls to one another, I still took his opinion of me very seriously.
This week, I interviewed an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.
She shares her experiences with us, her hilarious sense of humor, and what she gained from a year and a half long booty call relationship.
While I'm still waiting to book my ticket for that trip, I can say that I did learn a significant amount about myself and relationships through an unexpected adventure with a "Tinderoni": - It's okay to "think like a man," and not want a serious relationship: I don't know about you, but as a woman, I've been consistently bombarded with the idea that not wanting a relationship either means that a) you're a bitter person that simply can't find a boyfriend because you're so off-putting or b) you're a slut who just wants to sleep around.
For a while, this ideology prevented me from pursuing anyone within the five-mile radius of my dormant Tinder account.